5 things to do to keep the spark in your relationship alive

When in a relationship, one may wonder, “What the essence of love is?” Is it in communicating any or every concern, thought, opinion or belief, does it lay in the realms of trusting the other person with eyes closed and a joyful heart, or is it being honest with all the good and bad parts of you? To be honest, a healthy relationship is indeed a mix-match of multiple elements of safety, fun, healthy conflict, responsibility, equality, trust, communication, and honesty. It is possible for love to thrive only when all such elements are present. However, sometimes even when all this is present, the relationship you are in may seem dull, it makes you feel old, and loving your partner starts feeling mundane; the promises of love and the “I love you” may start feeling like a broken record, yet the feelings may still be there. If yes, then rest assured, it is only the spark that has been blown off, not your relationship. You still hold the power to revive it with all its might to keep your love alive

What is this “spark”?

The spark, as per the definition given by Google, is “a small fiery particle thrown off from a fire,” and we are more or less talking about the same fire. The only difference is that this fire will not burn down your house but will invigorate your relationship sending you on the rollercoaster of fiery emotions and intense feelings of love and intimacy with your partner. This fire will ignite your love life. How so? Lay back and follow through with our dating advice to give your love a new life.

How can you add spark to your relationship?

1. Go out of your comfort zone

It is the golden rule of growth, “Try something new”. It is the only way you can achieve something different. How can you expect results to be different if you keep doing the same thing? This is why it is important to push past your comfort, so get up from the bed, pick up your phone, and download My Date Jar to take help for planning activities based on the likes of your partner and you can also download our app by clicking on the link to get the right match for iOS, for Android. Skip the routine, and see your partner in a new light, plan a vacation, take them to their dream place and add one tick to their bucket list, play a game you have never played so together you learn the tricks or get innovative in bed, try something that you haven’t still. No matter how big or small your attempt is, do it with a full heart, and you will see the result in no time.

2. Make it more than “I love you”

Obviously, this three-word sentence is enough to reassure your partner that they are indeed loved by you. But let’s get real, everything, when spoken on repeat, gets boring and leaves its essence. Saying “I love you” at the airport with tears in your eyes and saying it on call as a formality while you are rushing to someplace is different; the intensity defines it all. However, when you attach a personal element with meaning to it, such as answering why you love the person or how loving them makes you feel can add a zing to your love life. Try telling your partner about their greatness, complimenting them with positive affirmations, and appreciating them for what they do for both of you. Let us give you an example, “I love you, and I am so grateful to have you share my life with me.” Isn’t that more appealing than a plain morning “I love you” text? Answer yourself.

3. Those who love you mirror what you do

The notion can not get any more real than in this context. If you want your partner to shower you with words that revive your trust and love in the relationship and in them, then make sure that you are the one who wakes up every day and kisses them with such words, embraces their afternoons, and sings them to sleep lathered in the romantic words. They surely will respond back with much more love when you do it enough. You will get habitual with it, and one day it will all flow with ease.

4. Get into the “love language” of your partner

Every person has a different way with which they resonate their love with; if your love language is an act of service, which is cooking or taking care of your loved one. It is not necessary that this may be the same for your significant other. If they are more of words of affirmation person, you must get yourself enrolled in a creative writing workshop to master the art of expression, write them letters, and leave them in unexpected places or surprising moments. Stick it within their bento box or in the pocket of your jeans, and text them to check the pocket before running the washer. It really comes down to those little things that a person does for the other. You don’t have to book a five-star hotel to make them happy (once in a while, you must), but not on a repeat if you are on a budget. They will smile from ear to ear if all you do is pluck a flower for them on the way to your home if they feel loved when gifted something.

5. A date night once a month keeps breakup away

No matter how long it has been since you are both together. Even if you prefer staying in your PJs when you get the time, or your idea of a perfect date night might revolve around having ice cream from the same tub with binge-watching Friend’s episodes. You can still go out and do something different for a date night that defies your routine. Search places such as fancy restaurants, parks, or what your partner has been talking about visiting for quite a while and get it booked for them.

There is a lot that you can do to revive the spark that you first felt when you met the love of your life; if you want some help for the purpose, we recommend you to get some tips for a first date because often it is important to revise what you did for your partner when you first got into the relationship. A little reminder always goes a long way.